The Fourth Step issues a challenge to look at our lives, not only in the context of the sexual abuse we survived, but also in the context of our daily lives and the interwoven family chaos of emotional, physical and spiritual abuse that we grew up in. Step Four followed naturally from the first three steps: once we stopped attempting to control others in order to avoid experiencing suppressed emotions and memories and began to trust again, we were better able to take a good look at ourselves. It was only here within ourselves, that we could make some real changes.
