When Mothers are Perpetrators:
Issues and Challenges
An SIA World Service Conference Roundtable Discussion
Purpose: to create text for the SIA Gold Big Book, Hope Heals
You Can Make Our Big Book Reality!
The SIA WSC Literature Committee & Gold Big Book Subcommittee is seeking your assistance in making our dream of an SIA Big Book come to life. To help with the creation of this text, we are conducting a series of discussions by experienced SIA members about various chapters in the book. You may listen in and participate in these discussions. Each discussion will be 2 ½ hours in length, and non-speaker panel members are encouraged to participate during the last portion of the meeting. Additionally, all SIA members are encouraged to share their experience, strength and hope in written form with the committee and participate in our monthly Literature Committee meetings on the first Monday of every month at 6:30 pm ET/3:30 pm PT. To participate in monthly Literature Committee meetings, call 712-451-6000; pin number: 190373 #
* If you’d like to participate in a future WSC SIA Roundtable Discussion as a Speaker Panel Member, feel free to contact Becky (firstname.lastname@example.org) or John+ (email@example.com)
4:00 P.M. – 6:30 P.M. Eastern Time
1:00- 3:30 P.M. Pacific Time
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& Questions Panelists Will Address
When mothers abuse, the effects are often devastating. A person who has given birth to a child and often nurtured that child in infancy betrays that trust and suddenly is anything but kind and nurturing. Unfortunately, children who survive mother abuse have profound issues to cope with. Whereas men are often cast as perpetrators, women are usually not. Although today, many of us know that women can be as likely to abuse as men, some survivors find greater difficulty owning and dealing with the effects of mother abuse. For some, the betrayal that one experiences and the social stigma associated with abuse by a woman can make healing difficult. Today’s roundtable participants will address these issues.
Questions for Consideration
- What was the nature of the abuse that you received from your mother?
- · What other types of abuse (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) did you experience from your mother?
- · How did the abuse affect your perceptions of who you are, both as a young person and as an adult?
- · What life challenges have occurred for you as a result of your abuse, and how did you minimize or run from those challenges prior to recovery?
- · How has the abuse you received from your mother affected your capacity to engage in and form healthy intimate other relationships?
- · What aspects of your abuse have been most difficult for you to show up for in recovery, and why?
- · At SIA meetings, a majority of participants are usually women. How have you managed to work with the trauma triggering that occurs at meetings and avoid turning women at meetings into perpetrators when you’re triggered?
- · What solutions and recovery tools have proven to be most helpful for your recovery?
- · As a person who has been involved with recovery for sometime, what do you want others who’ve survived mother abuse to know about themselves and life’s possibilities?
Upcoming Roundtable Topics & Dates
Sunday, September 8:
Anger: The Role of Owning & Expressing Anger in Empowering the Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse